Honestly I don't see that as fitting the people I know who are controlling. Most (or all) of them are insecure, of course, but some of them are highly competent.
Well, they're all good at posing as competent. And there is something of an ingrained human tendency to trust competent-seeming individuals and not examine their success/failure data too closely. There are lots of examples of this, obviously.
That may not be the case with you, though. You may know some genuinely competent controlling individuals, whose heavy gravitational field you've sufficiently escaped in order to clearly size them up. In which case, you and I have had very different experiences!
Honestly I don't see that as fitting the people I know who are controlling. Most (or all) of them are insecure, of course, but some of them are highly competent.
ReplyDeleteWell, they're all good at posing as competent. And there is something of an ingrained human tendency to trust competent-seeming individuals and not examine their success/failure data too closely. There are lots of examples of this, obviously.
ReplyDeleteThat may not be the case with you, though. You may know some genuinely competent controlling individuals, whose heavy gravitational field you've sufficiently escaped in order to clearly size them up. In which case, you and I have had very different experiences!