Nothing ever actually happens to you. Stuff happens around you. The awareness at your core - which has blithely hummed as it has peered, ever since childhood, outward from your eyes - has never wavered amid the ever-changing plot points of your life.That's a bit esoteric. Here's another, slightly more relatable, way of expressing it:
If you get so lost in a horror movie that you genuinely feel yourself suffering, the move isn't to yearn for a different outcome in the movie's plot; it's to realize you're the watcher, not the actor.